Behaviour at Darul Uloom
The Prophet (PBUH) says “Every one of you is a Protector and Guardian for those who are placed under your care”. (Bukhari and Muslim).
We have a responsibility to create a nurturing school environment where children are respected, their voices are heard; where they are safe and feel safe and are happy and engaged. Through years of effort we have a place where behaviour is brilliant and our pupils are respectful and feel respected.
The importance of good behaviour is constantly mentioned to pupils and we give evidence from the Holy Quran so it is connected to their faith,
“O you who have believed, let not a people ridicule [another] people; perhaps they may be better than them; nor let women ridicule [other] women; perhaps they may be better than them. And do not insult one another and do not call each other by [offensive] nicknames. Wretched is the name of disobedience after [one’s] faith. And whoever does not repent – then it is those who are the wrongdoers”. (Hujurat: 11)
“O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it. And fear Allāh; indeed, Allāh is Accepting of repentance and Merciful”. (Hujurat: 12)
“For each one are successive [angels] before and behind him who protect him by the decree of Allāh. Indeed, Allāh will not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves. And when Allāh intends for a people ill, there is no repelling it. And there is not for them besides Him any patron”. (Ar_Rad: 11)
“You are the best nation produced [as an example] for mankind. You enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong and believe in Allāh. If only the People of the Scripture had believed, it would have been better for them. Among them are believers, but most of them are defiantly disobedient”. (Al-Imran:110)
The Darul Uloom uses the teachings from hadith to promote and encourage good manners as it is stated in the Hadith Narrated by:
`Abdullah bin `Amr: Allāh’s Messenger (PBUH) neither talked in an insulting manner nor did he ever speak evil intentionally. He used to say, “The most beloved to me amongst you is the one who has the best character and manners.” He added, ” Learn the Qur’ān from (any of these) four persons. `Abdullah bin Mas`ud, Salim the freed slave of Abu Hudhaifa, Ubai bin Ka`b, and Mu`adh bin Jabal.”
Abud-Darda (May Allāh be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet (PBUH) said, “Nothing will be heavier on the Day of Resurrection in the Scale of the believer than good manners. Allāh hates one who utters foul or coarse language.”
It was narrated that Abu Hurairah said: “The Prophet (PBUH) was asked: ‘What most admits people to Paradise?’ He said: “Piety and good manners.”
Narrated AbuHurayrah: The Prophet (PBUH) said: “The most perfect believer in respect of faith is he who is best of them in manners.”
Abu Umamah Al-Bahili (May Allāh be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allāh (PBUH) said, “I guarantee a house in Jannah (Paradise) for one who gives up arguing even if he is in the right, and I guarantee a home in the middle of Jannah for one who abandons lying even for the sake of fun; and I guarantee a house in the highest part of Jannah for one who has good manners.”
Our teachers, staff are also reminded how they are role models and should practice and show pupils what good manners look like. We have also put created a house system that promotes good behaviour where pupils are rewarded with house points for respect, hard work and perseverance. To manage misbehaviours, house points are deducted. This system allows others in their house to support them and discourage poor behaviour. We are very proud of our pupils as the community have praised their conduct time and time again. May Allah subhanawataalah bless them all, Ameen.